So perm and vary.



The nerve endings of the Universe
Branch differently in the varies.
What are the varieties of the varies?
They are various, these varieties.
From the Ovary of the Mother,
all matter appears
then disappears.

From the invisible to the visible,
That is our lot.

Life varies …. The Human pluralises in beings,
Beings depend upon Be
For their ing.

The measure depends upon a criterion ….

©AJDettman 2013

One Love

Fancy dress day at The Levellers Beautiful Days Festival 2013


A personal view based on my personal experiences.

One Love knowing Itself in two places of experience is Mankind’s lot. Orientation is simply a navigation.

Because for the Sufi, Love is all there actually is in the whole of existence, it seems to me that Mankind in its dual gender manifestation can easily experience overwhelming feelings of disorientation.

Adultery was punished by death in past culture as was other interpersonal disorientation as people lost their ability to withstand inner urge from becoming outer actions.

Christ stopped such killing by asking who it was exactly that was without error themselves, as only they could execute the then law. He said, “let he who has no sin cast the first stone.”

He then said to the folks that had had their death sentence arrested that they should go and try not to miss the point of their life again, or not to sin again as it is sometimes translated.

He did not take the easier softer way and change the then law to try to make disorientation into orientation, he simply suggested that One Love understands the difficulty of the mortal template, a template that needs insulation around the vehicular inner cabling to prevent meltdown, and that any mortal disorientation always has a spiritual insulation remedy whatever the mental and physical interface may appear to insist.

So today, violent physical reaction to perceptions of the behaviour of others, when because of One Love there is no actual other, is never to be recommended and thanks eventually to the message of Christ, modern law correctly forbids all forms of antisocial physical violence in Great Britain, plus that which was illegal is no longer illegal as regards personal relationships and lifestyle choices.

That does mean that perplexing disorientation can ever pretend to be anything other than itself in mortal duality. However, The Christ Jesus did say that hypocrisy is the worst case scenario of all.

Disorientation can lose faith in One Love’s physical design, and forget that Christ did not advocate changing the basis of the template’s physical law, rather He changed the way it was to be prosecuted, from death into onward wrestling with an ever open portal for Love’s arbitration as both a humanising source code and a destination that can forgive anything and personally orientate anyone from being any kind of man or woman, into becoming singularly The Human, being.

My experience is that every expression of love is intrinsically perfect. The logic of the intellect is sometimes unable to understand love it seems, but One Source, where that Source is no other than love, understands the dualistic intellect as it performs its role.

So, my experience is not an advocacy for conversion therapy or reparative treatment in matters of specific sexual orientation or general sexual behaviour.

Somehow or other, (link from a future post) the literal Holy Writ of the Abrahamic traditions has to be shown to be of the same Source as the ancient texts of the East. The same as the rendition of the people searching for Krishna because there was a battle to fight and they eventually found Him, dressed as a woman playing with the cow-girls.

My experience therefore is simply stating that for me, change was possible within my understanding of myself within destined matters of orientation identity and expression and that therefore the results of knowledge gained from my personal experience has a perfect right of expression here that is still accepting of my professional compliance with the Ethical Framework of the BACP, yet fully able to shed my light on how the metaphysical meets the physical with libidinous energy.

“In my weakness, is my strength” is the abiding message from Christ, known as a Mighty Counsellor and Prince of Peace.



This post is dedicated to the mothers and to our darling children and grandchildren. Though the failures and mistakes almost overwhelmed and have cost us all so very much, mothers both here and gone on, with all my heart I thank you.

These beautiful children might never have seen the loving light of day had you not done your best to love me then within our mutual efforts to resolve the confusions of fright, which may only now seem clear.

My heartfelt apologies to my birth family and my birthing families and to my many intimates, many of whom were often unwittingly involved in my huge inner battles as over and over again hearts were broken.

My thanks to my present wife Sa’ida, I love you.

O God, I bear witness to Mankind that You keep Your word. Astagfirullah. (dedication added 10/05/19)

Letters let things happen ….


Imagine if the only reason that you are on this planet is to become Human.

What if you were born a boy baby or a girl baby, grew into a man or a woman and that then your sole work was to achieve the rank of being Human?

Would that ‘re-commissioning’ that ‘re-mission’ in your life change the way that you live and if so, what might convince you that that was in fact the true case?

When I worked in a prison rehab, trained as an addiction counsellor, dispensing treatment in a spiritually oriented recovery programme to recover men from criminalised addiction , virtually no inmate wanted to know anything about a loving God – no surprises there then!

Whenever I asked this captive client group, “who here has ever done an inhuman act?”, there was usually a complete and immediate admittance answering the question in the affirmative.

Then I would ask them to suspend their disbelieve around their old beardy God sitting up on a cloud, asking them to imagine that if they could have a God, just what qualities would their God be recognised as having.

On the white board usually the first God quality identified in the prison group was “forgiving”, followed closely by “generous”, along with a fairly predictable tally of merciful, loving, humorous, helpful, meaningful, powerful … and so on.
Then, given that the only way that they could accept that they had done inhuman things in the past was to in fact still have an inner calibrating scale of humanity, I asked them to define the term “The Human”.

The two lists were almost identical.

I then asked them what was the plural of the word “man”, and therefore, what was the plural also of the word “woman”?

What then, I would ask, is the plural of human?

After brief hesitations when it became clear that the “a” did not change in the pluralisation of the word human, and after “s” was accepted, it became clear that by far the most common way that this word “human” pluralised was through the word “beings”.

It then became easy to step the clients away from God on a cloud, toward The Human as a euphemism for God, that describes a Singular source code and a potential destination for mankind, that became clear with a deliberate “pause” in the spoken word.

The Human *pause* being you, meets The Human *pause* being me, to obtain experience, expression and development.